Since I'm definitely not an extrovert, I'm going to focus this text on what it's like living the life of an introvert.
Some misconceptions that I've come across are:
- "You're shy/Are you shy?"
I can see why my quietness might be mistaken for shyness. More than often, this comes from people who I've just met. I just don't smalltalk very much and rarely speak if I don't have anything more important to say than "Wow, the weather's nice". It takes a lot of energy for me to keep talking about something that really isn't that interesting. Some days I've got the energy to smalltalk, but most days I just don't.
- "You dislike people."
Well, naturally, I can't walk around liking everybody that I meet. But, no, I don't dislike other people. Truth is I have a very neutral attitude towards other people. In that sense I rarely find other people interesting, but I don't dislike people in general.
- "Are you depressed?"
This one really bugs me. It rarely happens, but when it does... I.. Bah. Preferring loneliness before the company of others doesn't equal depression. I can see that when an extrovert starts preferring being alone, that might set of some alarm bells, but I have been this way since I can remember and I certainly wasn't a depressed child. Just because you don't understand my way of being and acting doesn't mean somethings wrong with me, and frankly I think it's quite rude to ask someone you barely know if they're depressed based solely on your concern about them appreciating time alone. They're probably spending that time playing some cool video game anyway.
The fact remains that I love hanging out with my friends and they mean A LOT to me. I might just be more selective with whom I choose to call a friend. A friend to me is someone who is okay with you not being on top of your game every time. And a friend to me is also someone who can understand that you'd rather stay at home playing loud music and dancing around by yourself, without feeling hurt. We all need those kinds of days anyway, don't we?
Are you introverted/extroverted? What kind of misconceptions have you come across?